Relating Through Change

The heart is a complex system of connection and longing.

In relating, I prioritise my heart’s desire above all else.

It leads my decision making, even when my mind and body have another plan.

I can map a path, feel settled in it, and then something opens, something arrives, something calls and pulls on my heart, and my heart just wants to pour in that direction.

I don’t rush any of it. I listen, I hold, I observe, I arrange, and I tend to all before I let it pour. But I deeply listen to it.

I am a complex human, multifaceted, forever evolving, changing, and contradicting myself.

I allow it.

I feel we all are, truly.

Forever meeting ourselves, dying, letting go, and following what’s alive and what calls us next.

That is the evolutionary journey.

This is why I love breaking the norms of relating.

This is why I design my relationship structures to allow for evolution.

No single form works forever; they move through seasons, chapters, and life changes, shifting as new people enter or depart, and as the complexity of life unfolds.

To some, this freedom or allowing for change can be terrifying, but to me, so can trying to control or contain the aliveness that life calls forth in me.

I’m here to meet life and love, and to trust in how they need to move and express.

This doesn’t mean I run on a whim.

My change is slow, intentional, and embodied.

I hold a self-contract every three months, checking in on how I’m choosing to relate, how much energy I have for connection, and to what depth. This always comes second to how I’m living my life, my goals, direction, and what I’m creating.

When I build relationships from that place, they fuel my life. They don’t drain or drag me.

It’s a continual invitation to ask:

What does my heart want in this phase of life?

How much energy do I have for relating right now, and what does that look like?

What supports the future I’m moving toward?

And from there, who aligns with that path?

Allow change.

Welcome evolution.

Create love and relationships that serve your becoming.

This is what I support my clients to do too, empowering themselves and their relationships with clarity, honesty, and commitment.

Breaking the constrained norms of possessive and controlled relating, and opening into empowered, alive, and loving relationships with self and others.

This is for all styles of relating, but especially for those seeking to engage fully with the aliveness of life. With love, Narla.