hinarladean

If you're reading this, you probably already know there's more available to you. More depth in your intimacy, more presence in your pleasure, more of that connected and alive feeling where sex stops being something you do and becomes something you're inside of. What I've come to understand, in my own body and alongside the people I sit with, is that the way into that depth isn't through better technique or more effort, it's through the body itself, through learning to feel what is actually...

Before you read on, take a moment to notice your body. Where is your breath moving easily, and where does it seem to stop? Is anything held in your jaw, your shoulders, your belly? You don't need to change a thing. Just let yourself arrive here, in the place where all of this actually happens. Every feeling begins as sensation. Before anger has a story, it's heat rising through the chest and a jaw that wants to set. Before grief has words, it's a pressure behind the eyes and a tightening in...

On repeating cycles, giving grace, and letting the healthy adult lead There's a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from finding yourself back in the same place over and over again. The same ache, the somehow same kind of relationship, the same moment where you notice yourself bending a little further than you meant to, and the same quiet voice afterwards asking, why do I keep doing this? again? If you know that voice, I want to begin by saying something gently. Don't be hard on yourself...