So It Doesn't Happen Again

Did you notice the moment you almost said something

and didn’t?

Did you notice the pause

the calculation

the decision to stay quiet because it felt safer than being honest?

Did you notice when you softened your needs

so it wouldn’t feel like too much?

Did you notice when you laughed it off

even though your body contracted?

Did you notice how often you told yourself

it’s not that big of a deal

while something in you kept shrinking?

Did you notice when you stopped bringing things up

not because they didn’t matter

but because you were tired of the potential conflict?

Did you notice when desire faded

not from lack of love

but from the ache that just couldn’t find the spark anymore?

Did you notice when you gave more than you had

and called it commitment?

Did you notice when you stopped talking to your friends about it

because saying it out loud made it too real?

Did you notice when being yourself

started to feel like betrayal?

Did you notice how often you were reaching

adjusting

waiting

explaining

minimising

hoping to be met

hoping it would change?

Do you remember the moment you realised

you weren’t quite yourself anymore?

The cost is slow.

But it is real.

Because the most common place we lose ourselves

is in relationship.

Because love is not meant to cost you yourself.

And responsibility begins with knowing where you give yourself away.

I remember each and every one of those moments.

And I remember the moment I chose differently.

I took my power back.

I found my centre.

And I committed to holding it.

Relating, Me Before We -

my eight week program exists so this doesn’t have to happen again.

This is not a group program, it's one on one, it's deeply personal to you.

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With love,

Narla.